Why Being Single is so Totally Awesome!

Some people have asked me lately what the positives are about being single.

It really gave me great pause... because I don't really enjoy being single.  After 19 years it's hard to go back to being single, but at least the question opened my eyes to the fact that perhaps there are some perks about it.

 

 

Keep in mind that these were married people wondering how I enjoyed being single.  Funny. 

It's funny how sometimes we can have the Grass-is-Greener syndrome over the craziest of things.  Some mention how lucky I am to get a whole entire weekend to myself when the kids are spending it with their dad.  Seriously?  I say it's h-e-double hockey sticks.  I get all the alone time I want when the kids are at school, why do I want more alone time during the weekend? 

You people are crazy!

 

It's easy to focus on how unfair everything is and how being a Single Mom is the absolute hardest thing I have ever done in my life.  It's easy to point out all the things in my life where having a man around would make things so much easier... like mowing the lawn, reaching for tall things, opening a really tight lid, washing those hard-to-reach windows, getting something off of the roof, getting the oil changed in the car, winterizing the sprinklers, shoveling the snowy driveway, changing light bulbs, keeping my feet warm in bed, adult conversation at night, getting the earring that fell down the sink, setting up my new computer and printer, and above all just being able to tag team each other when you're "done" with the kids. etc. etc. etc. etc. etc.

 

HOWEVER,

 

It's been fun today to  zone in on why being single might have some bonus'.

The list isn't very long but here are a few things I came up with.

 

I can read at night with the light on for as long as I want.

I can watch whatever I want on t.v.

What I say GOES.

I can go to bed as early or as late as I want to.

I can leave my gross hair strands on the shower wall.

I don't feel pressure to cook amazing meals.

I'm not uptight about keeping the house super clean.

I'm not uptight about too many things.

When I try to lose weight I can do it on MY terms and don't feel the competition of someone else losing way faster than me.

The car is messy.
I only have to make 1/2 of a bed.

I get the whole entire Master Closet to myself.  (awesome)

I can leave dirty dishes in the sink if I want to.

I can decorate the house how I want to.
This year, decorating for Christmas I loved putting up my Olive Wood Nativity from Omar's shop in Jerusalem because I could put it wherever I wanted.  There was no discussion about where tradition believed it should be displayed.

 

I'm sure I'll think of more things but that's it for now.  Not too impressive right?  In fact, even as I'm writing this the word "I" is very evident and I feel a little selfish.  Being married is a TEAM effort that gets us out of feeling self-centered.

I don't ever want to feel content with the way life is for me right now... I'm a team player and I'd rather have things be that way.

 

However, since life is what it is at the current moment I'll keep adding to my list at finding the perks.

In the meantime all you married people, work on your marriages and just know that the set of troubles you have in your marriages right now isn't too shabby compared to the set of troubles you would have getting out of your marriages.  
You're just trading one package of troubles for another.  Keep the ones you've got.

 

Life is good!